|1 day old|
New parents who have just brought a child into this world and have had that world answer back sorry are justifiably grieved, I think. Its an acutely painful thing. Personally, I announced Nava's genetic status via her birth announcement. I posted it on facebook and emailed it to my bosses and non-fb folks. In my vast experience with this (n=1) it's a great way to share the news of a kiddo coming with something extra. I got to frame it the way I wanted people to hear it. I didn't have to repeat myself a thousand times. And most importantly, I didn't have to see the looks on people's faces. On friend's faces. Because, to be completely honest, I'm sure some people's reactions would have hurt me (completely unintentionally of course). This way everybody got to process it first then respond on fb or in person without a knee jerk reaction.
|5 months old|
As a result, I think, I didn't get many sorry comments.
But as I see new parent grapple with being told sorry on message boards and blogs, there always remained a little voice in the back of my mind saying but sorry is kinda right... saying sorry isn't necessarily wrong because...because...because this:
Sorry? Sorry. Yes. I'm sorry too.
I'm sorry that my child has been born into a world that discriminates against people for the make up of their DNA.
A world that considers them less than human at times.
A world where it can be justified to deny them education.
A world where people feel its ok to video them dancing and put in on youtube to mock.
A world where people will sling around the word retard cause its such a fun way to put down others!
A world where some doctors urge abortion of people like them.
A world of people feeling uncomfortable and even scared of or disgusted with people with an intellectual disability.
These *are* things to feel sorry for folks.
|9? months old|
But I'm not sorry Nava is Nava. Not sorry at all.